How To Find Out if Your Date Is A Liar?  
By Linda C Dipman

    How can we overcome deceit when all we are trying to do is find our soul mate?  How do we know if the person
we like, really likes us in return?  How do we know they aren't just using us for sex?  Is your date a liar?

    It's your first date together.  Let's go to the movies!  

    We sat enthralled as the screen exploded with spectacular graphics of an elaborate spaceship shooting laser
beams of light at the opposing spaceship of the evil arch enemy of the universe.  The handsome hero smiled as
each weapon of destruction expertly hit its target annihilating its adversary.  The scene changed and he embraced
the woman he loved and fought so valiantly to defend.  Thanks to the hero, the people of earth were once again
rescued from total extinction.  The audience applauded as the movie ended!

    It was a perfect date movie.  Each couple left their seats in the huge theater smiling and reiterating the stunning
action and the touch of romance that made the movie great!

    I have seen many wonderful movies skillfully produced and directed.  Movies that you wished would never end.  
Movies that took your breath away and made you feel good about your life.  Productions that made you believe
that you could step into the hero's shoes and defy anything and everything evil this world can throw at you.  

    Unfortunately, a good movie only lasts a few hours while a human beings present life situation keeps on going
forward.  In real life you must follow the path you started.  While in the movies good decisions or bad decisions only
last until the end of the show.  The movie is over, your date asks you what you want to do next.  What are they
really thinking?  Are you wondering if she or he is the one you've been looking for all you're life?

    Movies clearly define the opposites between good and evil, but real life can be tricky.  When you're dating, you
don't have the advantage of knowing how the person you're with is really feeling about you.  While on the other
hand fictitious stories clearly define whether it is love or just lust.  
    
    Real life can be deceiving because we cannot control the uncertainties of life, for instance problems that arise
when a person we like is lying about how they feel about us.  They may be married or living with another person.  
They may be drunkards, smokers, or addicted to pornography.  We cannot begin to know them unless they tell you
the truth.  When you're dating it is easy to be trapped and deceived because you must gain your information from
the person you are with.
    
    When we acknowledge that we live in an evil world then we begin to understand why dating is difficult.  Our
world reveals definite opposites to prove to us the difference between good and bad.  So in order to understand
why finding truth in dating is so hard, we must look at why we are so easily deceived.

    From the very beginning of time the story of Adam and Eve reveals to us the secret of why our world became
corrupted.  They ate the apple not realizing that once eaten they would release Satan into the world.  Satan stands
for everything that destroys goodness from a persons life.  He inspires all the evil that is found in negative
emotions, pain, and destruction from war and natural disasters.

    Satan is the reason why dating the right person can be hard.   He keeps us in the dark so we cannot see the
faults of the person we are dating. He does this because he doesn't want you to find your perfect mate.  He desires
that you lead with your emotions and feelings without getting to know the person first.  He wants you to make quick
decisions that lead you to unprotected sex that exposes you to disease or unwanted pregnancy.  He wants
unwedded fathers and mothers.  He wants unhappy families without futures.  His desire is to frustrate love and
prosper hate.

    2Corinthians 4:4, "They do not believe, because their minds have been kept in the dark by the evil god of this
world. He keeps them from seeing the light shining on them, the light that comes from the Good news about the
glory of Christ, who is the exact likeness of God."

    God on the other hand teaches us about love. He teaches about what kind of love is genuine.  He teaches with
emotional values, how we are to determine what kind of person we want to be with. God wants us to take our time
to get to know the person we are dating.  
    
    Ephesians 5: 9, "for it is the light that brings a rich harvest of every kind of goodness, righteousness, and truth."

    In order to find out the truth from your date, you must have a value system to guide your choice.  You must take
the time to talk about what your date wants in a companion.  Never hop into bed first.  You must know what you
want in a relationship and what you need from another person.  You must begin by laying a foundation by having
many conversations over your family and belief system.  All of this takes time and if you want true lasting love, it is
essential.

    Putting God first will open up your relationship to truth.  God gives you a guide to measure the value of the
person.  He tells us who is a good, honest person and what is a bad situation.  

    Galatians 5:19-21a, "What human nature does is quite plain.  It shows itself in immoral, filthy, and indecent
actions; in worship of idols and witchcraft.  People become enemies and they fight; they become jealous, angry,
and ambitious.  They separate into parties and groups; they are envious, get drunk, have orgies, and do other
things like these.

    Many couples have been deceived into following a lifestyle that promotes emotions that are destructive to a
relationship.  Emotions of envy which leads us to over spend in order to keep up with the group.  Emotions that
lead to drinking parties that promote orgies and girlfriend and boyfriend swapping.   All lead to terrible feelings that
give way to feelings of jealousy which can lead to fighting and quarreling that destroys any hope of a lasting love.

    Remember our world is filled with opposites.  If you want a strong relationship you must think about how you are
spending your time together.  Parties are okay, as long as there are boundaries.  Boundaries that protect your
relationship from other people.

    God gives us a whole new way to enjoy our date.  His principles of love shine in our lives and show what kind of
person we are on the inside.  His light of understanding lets us see what kind of person we are dating by the
choices that he or she makes.  With God's help the true nature of who we are dating is revealed and we see
whether they are a liar or if they walk in truth.

    Galatians 5: 22-25, "But the Spirit produces love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness,
humility, and self-control.  There is no law against such things as these.  And those who belong to Christ Jesus
have put to death their human nature with all its passions and desires.  The Spirit has given us life; he must also
control our lives.  We must not be proud or irritate one another or be jealous of one another."

    A truly great movie portrays a couple who are flawed, but have redeeming qualities found in right morals. They
are hero's dedicated for good.  They are a picture-perfect family beginning the journey that will lead them to a
wonderful life together.

    Remember they don't need God in the movies, but in real life we must have God in order to find out the truth.  
We can define "How To Find Out if Your Date Is A Liar" by simply applying God's truth.